Peace of Mind

Sometimes the most important thing is peace of mind . Don't do or say anything which will disturb your Peace of mind . Sometimes people may not understand you , may not accept your views , may be extremely critical about whatever you do . That s okay . If you are doing the right thing , go ahead .

New Year is here , Its important to make healthy resolutions and follow it vigorously  . Few of my resolutions are listed below .

1 . Get more active, may be lot of exercises or taking the stairs , whatever it is . Get moving in 2017 .

2. Eat more healthy stuff . Reduce junk , may be once in a week is fine .

3. Cry less . Be more emotionally stronger and handle situations better .

4. Be indifferent to situations and people if it disturbs your Peace of mind.

5. Read more good books . One every month .

6. Reduce Social Media , phone usage . May be just 3 times in a day .


7. Write everyday even if you don't publish it .



That's it  for now . Wishing all a healthy and happy 2017 . Smile and laugh more . Do things which make you happy . Respect yourself to walk away from anything or anyone that no longer deserves , grows or makes you happy .

Love you Zindagi

Like Laugh Out Loud (LOL) , there should be cry out loud(COL). Sometimes its good to cry out
loud just to release all the pent up feelings in your mind . Dear Zindagi is a beautiful movie which talks about talking out your problems . Its not a crime to visit a psychiatrist if you need help .

Sometimes parents also make mistakes , its important to forgive them and move on . Few things learnt from the movie .

1. Forgive your parents if they have dome some wrong to you .

2. Talk to someone if you are in pain .

3. Play kabaddi with the beach that just means spend some time in nature .

4. You don't have to feel guilty if you have been in many relationships before , even to buy a chair we sit on many and select the best . Similarly to choose a life partner , you may have to try a few to select the best .

Lyrics of song love you Zindagi from Dear Zindagi posted below

Jo dil se lage
Usey keh do hi, hi, hi                            
Jo dil na lage
Usey keh do bye, bye, bye

Aane do, aane do
Dil mein aa jaane do
Keh do muskurahat ko
Hi, hi, hi, hi

Jaane de, jaane do
Dil se chale jaane do
Keh do ghabrahat ko
Bye, bye, bye, bye, bye, bye…

Love you zindagi
Love you zindagi
Love you zindagi

Ready , study , Go

Amidst the smile , there is a pain . Amidst the laughter , there is sorrow . Life is like that .
Somewhere amidst the work , we have forgotten how to live . We are constantly complaining and cribbing . We don't know where we are leading . We are constantly checking Facebook , twitter and whatsapp . We forget to care for our dear and near ones .

Work is definitely important but there should be a balance between family and work . There is a thin line between rudeness and politeness .Never cross that line of politeness and become rude  .Be in touch with your friends . Respect all . Treat everyone well . Pay them any dues if any pending .
Help someone in need . Keep your expectations low from people . Avoid social media /newspaper for a day or two . Spend some time in nature and with  little ones . Love yourself and take care of yourself . Never ever expect anyone to take care of you. Be the fittest person you know . Lose that extra fat  so that you can wear your favorite  clothes . Cry out loud if you want once and finish it off. Never cry in front of anyone . No one cares really . Eat healthy . Have junk food once in a while .not everyday , Be beautiful from inside  and outside . Read more especially Bawa Dinesh new book - Ready study Go . I have got it . Get one for yourself today :)

Link to order book online posted below

http://www.amazon.in/Ready-Study-Go-Smart-Learn/dp/9352641345

why do People Lie

So many articles I found , one of the  link posted below .

https://www.thehopeline.com/107-what-is-lying-why-do-we-do-it/

One of the best explanations given by Guruji Posted below

Why would someone tell a lie to their close ones or to their beloved?

This is a question most often asked by lovers. Since love cannot stand untruth, this causes relationships to break up. The solution lies in understanding the paradox of love and truth. People tell lies just to save and maintain their love. The fear that the truth might damage their love causes lies to be told between husband and wife, boyfriend and girlfriend, parents and children and in family situations.

In love you feel weak and truth brings strength. Yet why do people prefer love over truth, i.e. weakness over strength?! (laughter)

No one wants to sacrifice love. Thus people are ready to give up the truth for their love. Love takes the luster out of truth. Sometimes truth can make love bitter while in love even lies can appear sweet, like Krishna’s lies to his mother Yashoda! The truth that does not nourish love has no sense and the love that cannot withstand the truth is not true love. When one is assured that the love is so strong that the truth can neither break it nor cause bitterness, then the truth prevails and love shines. Truth has judgments, but true love is beyond judgments. Thus true love makes you weak and yet it is the greatest strength.

Source :http://www.artofliving.org/wisdom/knowledge-sheets/love-and-truth

Be Indifferent

Did long kriya after a long time . Missed it  last week .Teacher who took the session for long Kriya was talking about Naradha Bhakti Sutras . In that one shloka, it  says to be indifferent when you are hurt by someone who loves you . I didn't get the exact meaning of indifference then , but later when I asked my husband , he told me its not to get affected by the situation  . I found it really beautiful .

Sometimes we get so affected by small things , Its better to be indifferent rather than be in depression . This was a real eye opener to me , Lets be indifferent . It doesn't mean that you don't care about people or situations , it means you don't get affected by it , Beautiful , Starting the week with long kriya is amazing

Guilty should be punished

An article in Saturday Deccan Herald which is shocking and true . This is the state of our country .

http://www.deccanherald.com/content/574677/when-patriarchys-clasp-ends-up.html

I just pray accused needs to be punished so that someone will think twice before performing such crime . Even if they are saved in the law of government , they can't escape the law of Karma .

Whoever is wrong should be and will be punished . Even if it s a  small mistake or big one . Guilty should and will be punished .

" Every action has a equal and opposite reaction "

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5iBgHB2B6o4


"This is what Lord Krishna told Arjuna, ‘Samah satrau ca mitre ca tatha manapamanayohsitoshna-sukha-duhkheshu samah sanga-vivarjitah’ Do not lose the equanimity of your mind. You do not know when and where, what will happen. When a friend will become an enemy and when an enemy will become friend.

One does not know anything in this world. So keep your attention on the truth and perform all your duties sincerely and meditate sincerely."-sri sri 

before sunrise

Been watching some romantic hollywood movies -Before Sunrise  and before Sunset (Yet to Finish) .
Sometimes we can talk to some people hours together and we never get bored . Cherish those people in your life . Even if you have met after many years , you can start off where you left .

Some beautiful quotes form both the movies . Both the movies have a dose of Spiritual session . Dialogues are very mature .

"Isn't everything we do in life a way to be loved a little more?"

"If there's any kind of magic in this world... it must be in the attempt of understanding someone, sharing something. I know it's almost impossible to succeed... but who cares, really? The answer must be in the attempt."

"Memory is a wonderful thing if you don't have to deal with the past."

Read a beautiful book "Its all in the planets" by Preeti Shenoy . I'm a quite a big fan of Preeti shenoy .Love reading her books . This was also too good . Sometimes we never  know why things happen , but later we realize it was for good . Planets are mostly right .

Society as it is

Colleague of mine is getting married . During the talks , there came a question how much money she would give her to family . Obviously parents spend their entire savings in their children s education and when the children grow up , its definitely their responsibility to take care of parents . There need not be any written statement for it . Be it daughter or son , they have to take care . Guy s family should understand that .

Pink was a nice movie to be watched . It had a lot of things to convey .

Some powerful dialogues from the movie Pink . Its been translated in English .

"No" is not only a word ... it's a sentence by itself ... it doesn't need any explanation or interpretation ... no simply means no

Till today we all have given our efforts in the wrong direction ... we should save our boys, not our girls ... because if we save our boys then our girls will be safe

NO MEANS NO These boys must realise, 'No' ka matlab 'No' hota hai. Use bolne wali ladki koi parichit ho, friend ho, girlfriend ho, koi s*x worker ho ya apki apni biwi hi kyu na ho. 'No' means 'No'. And when someone says so you STOP.

World Peace Day

Today being world Peace Day . World peace day has nothing to do with the world . Its very important to maintain peace with ourselves . We need to resolve any conflicts within ourselves , remove hatred , forgive people for their ignorance and be in peace  . Happiness and peace has nothing to do with the outside world .Its more a battle within oneself .

Sometimes peace can be achieved by talking about the issue which bothers or accepting it if it cannot be fixed . Some of the things which I do to create peace with myself are mentioned below .

1. Write out my feelings and throw it in bin . I don't want anyone to know my feelings. :)

2. Speak out with a dear person -anybody who I think is best to help me out.


3. Read or listen to something powerful and positive .

4. Doing kriya regularly and not missing the long Sudarshan Kriya

5. Going to sleep .

Truth or lies

Should I believe or not believe ?? Sometimes it becomes difficult to know which is lies and which is truth . There is a thin line between the two . Probably the eyes knows better . But how do we speak to the eyes . Anyways Lets not bother about which is true and which is false . Lets focus on our life rather than being judgemental about others . If someone is lying  , its their karma and they will take care of it . Lets not be the judge for it . Lets focus only on our reactions .

People lie for a variety of reasons .One could be to be accepted or the fear of rejection . Whatever it is , truth is beautiful and good . Lets try as much to remain truthful , transparent and ethical in our day to day dealings . Certain stages in our life , we may have to lie but that should be only like a pinch of salt not anything more than that unless really required .

“Tell the truth boldly, whether it hurts or not. Never pander to weakness. If truth is too much for intelligent people and sweeps them away, let them go; the sooner the better.” » Swami Vivekananda

Tuesday Gyaan

http://www.meraevents.com/event/yesplusWhitefield

I did the YES plus course 5 years back and my life has been changed for the better . If you haven't done it , enroll for it today .

Watched a beautiful Malayalam Movie called Mili acted by Amala Paul . Beautiful story which every parent should watch . Sometimes we never encourage our kids for the little things they do and this impacts their self esteem even when they grow up . Its important that children are enrolled in other activities like sports , music , dance and arts without any pressure apart from their studies . Recently a teenager girl ran away from home because she got less marks in her Maths Exam . If she cant't face failure and share her feelings with her parents , then what kind of  education are we imparting .

game of Truth

Whatever you do , some people are never happy .It's impossible to please everyone . Work on yourself and only yourself .Sometimes truth can be little funny . Recently read the story of Ashwathama in Mahahabharatha . Lord Krishna says yudhishithira to tell lies to Drona that his son Ashwathama is dead . But  Yudhishthira being very honest somehow found it difficult to do it. At the same time , Bhima would have killed elephant called ashwathama and thereby Yudhishthira says Drona  , ashwathama is dead . Some lies for the sake of greater good can be told.

" untruths and misdeeds are occasionally necessary, if the ends are justified. Lie if you have to, but don’t lie to yourself"-Dr .Shyam Bhat

Sometimes we think its better to say a lie rather than face the consequences of Truth .But the consequences of lies can again cause havoc to our Karma philosophy and can haunt us in strange ways . So lets stick to truth whenever and wherever possible . If the truth can cause damage or hurt the  other person a lot , then little bit of lies can be told like a pinch of salt.

Sometimes when we have a problem , we don't seek advice . Family and friends are the best . But if you can't reach out to them , we have a psychiatrist ,Doctor Shyam Bhat. One of my favorite doctors .his website details given below  . Do follow him on Facebook , twitter . His blogs are also quite interesting . One of his video link given below.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N-04UYgH_qM

http://shyambhat.com/

Movie Time

I have been watching a lot of movies these days . Some of the movies were brilliant like charlie , ennu ninte moideen  (Malayalam movies) and bajarangi bhaijaan .

Charlie is a story of a nice guy .Difficult to find such people , but its good to be someone like that .

Ennu ninte Moideen is again a Malayalam movie . Its a love story  beautifully portrayed by prithviraj and Parvathi.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=graP-a1MxN4

I have become a big fan of Parvathy after watching two of her movies .

Bajarani Bhaijaan is a Bollywood movie which is again a must watch movie .

Be Still

As per psychiatrists , 80% of our thoughts are about the past and 15% of our thoughts are about the future . Just 5% of our thoughts are in the present moment .So its very important to be in the present not in the past or future . If we are in the present moment , we are more creative and intuitive .
We don't have to keep asking around everyone for solutions , we ourselves can find the solutions   if we are in the present moment and focused .

There is no point worrying about the future . If you live in the present and give your 100% , future will be definitely good . We create our own destiny . Few minutes of meditation and exercise can help be in the present moment.

In childhood , we used to play a game called statue where we had to stand still without any moment when the person says statue . Probably we need to start playing the same game again if we can't take few minutes to be still.

"Today, let us all take up this one intention, "Come what may, I will not lose my smile, my spirit, and my enthusiasm!" Then you can be of great help to people around you. You will be a guiding light in your family, to your friends circle, in society -- everywhere! You will be the most 'wanted’ person, in the good sense, not in any other sense."-Sri Sri 

Kabali

I'm not a crazy fan of Rajni Kanth . But I like his style and acting . I have watched a few movies of Rajni Kanth and they are nice . His screen presence is amazing . Like one of my colleague who told she is a fan of fan following of Rajni Kanth . Most of the people have watched the movie because of the hype surrounding it . If something can make you feel good , which doesn't harm you or anyone , then why not pursue it .

" Whether you have a Maruti or a BMW, the road remains the same. Whether you travel economy class or business, your destination doesn't change. Whether you have a Titan or a Rolex, the time is the same. There is nothing wrong in dreaming a luxurious life. What needs to be taken care of is not let need become greed. Because needs can always be met, but greed can never be fulfilled."-Rajni Kanth 

Purpose of life

What is the purpose of Life ??? When you don't have a purpose , its like a ship which doesn't know where it has to go . Its important to find your purpose in life .Otherwise there are many chances of getting into addictions and boredom.

Today being Guru Poornima day ,I acknowledge all the Gurus in my life and extremely thankful to all of them .

To whatever degree we are alert, aware, to that degree we are living.
~ Sri Sri

Time to reflect

Sometimes life takes you in such curves that you don 't know whether to cry or laugh . When the recurring dream or the worst nightmare comes true . At these times , the only source of strength is your own self .

What happens when your dream comes true .Are you happy or are you in tears . Whom do you speak your mind .Will anyone understand your soul .

Life is never easy even for a child .Then how will it be easy for an adult. Everyone keep s advising you .Do you have to listen or let go .

Who defines what are your roles and responsibilities . When responsibilities are taken , its more fun rather than someone imposing on you.

What happens when  your expectations are not met ??do you still move on or do you pause ??

What happens when someone lets you down ?? Do you still have your confidence or do you lose it .

Some of them we mite not have answers but its worth pondering about .

“Life is nothing to be very serious about. Life is a ball in your hands to play with. Don’t hold on to the ball."

― Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

You are not a chocolate !

You are not a chocolate , you can't please everyone . Its not easy to please everybody . We are definitely not chocolates .Its important to be yourself and live life on your terms .

Some  beautiful blog posts by Author Preeti Shenoy .

http://blog.preetishenoy.com/2016/06/when-lights-turn-red.html

http://blog.preetishenoy.com/2016/06/parents-back-off-blog-marathon-post23.html

She is one of the finest writers and I'm truly inspired by her.

Another thing which I heard is accept people as they are .
Love can happen only when we accept them as they are . We can definitely give our point of view but we need to remain  stable .

Joy is expansion, becoming big in your heart. This can only happen in a situation where you are very much in love, but cannot posses what you love.~ Sri Sri

Random Experiences

Repeating happiness course is always fun . You learn something new from each course . Seeing people s experiences with kriya .Wow ...even I feel like I'm doing for the first time.

Happiness is to me when someone does the course and I'm the reason for it . Being committed is very important in life and that s the first thing which we learn in art of living . Whatever you take up , be 100% committed to it . May it be your job or the  various roles played like employee , friend , daughter etc..

We do a lot of things to beat loneliness . Serving people and being useful to society -You will never feel lonely.

Today I'm truly grateful to all the art of teachers with whom I have learnt something or the other .
Bawa , Dinesh bhayya , Prassanna Sir , KK , Amarja , Neha , Rekhaji , Shakuntalaji , Supriyaji , nisha mam , manikantan sir and many more .Thank you Guruji for making them such amazing teachers.

May 13 .................Tera May (Mein )

May 13 , Its guruji s birthday and I have to keep calm . Some of my promises to Guruji . Hopefully will keep up them .

1. I would give my 100% in whatever I do .

2. Will aim for clarity in mind , purity in thoughts and sincerity in action .

3. Will never leave seva , sadhana and satsang .

4.Commitment to be useful to the society .

5. Would never let you down or do something which wouldn't qualify me to be your devotee.


Happy Birthday once again Guruji . Sorry if I missed being on the path sometimes , but I always come back to you  .Thank you so much for everything .Totally grateful to you .

For the younger folks

http://www.speakingtree.in/blog/radhika-aptes-beautiful-message-to-every-woman-out-there-this-is-your-life-just-live-it

What advice would I give to the younger generation .

1. Don't study for just marks , study for knowledge .

2.Do the art of living course and be on the path  .

3. Take up challenges

4. Eat sattvic food .

5. Make one new friend everyday .

6. Don't waste time , energy on anything which is not fruitful .

7. Stay fit and healthy by doing exercises and yoga everyday .

8. Don't get into unhealthy relationships which don't nurture you .

9 .Be useful and make a difference in the society .

10. Do smart work . Be committed to whatever you take up .

11. Don't hurt others intentionally

12 . Don't get into any addictions like drugs , smoking and drinking .

13 .Read more and have a journal .

Law of Karma

I used to always wonder the cause of untimely death .Today its kind of clear to me . Its only a result of past karmic account . This is the only reason a 2 year old child or someone who is not old enough leaves the body . In the previous birth , parent could have caused some harm to a person and that person would be born as a child to the parent . So whatever is happening in our life is only a result of our past karmic account whether its good or bad . It becomes even more important to do the right action and not cause hurt or harm to anyone intentionally .

Likewise we need to accept whatever is happening in our life and ask God for knowledge and strength to face the same .Also  to differentiate between wrong and right action . I believe something which you don't  want anyone to do it to you is wrong action . This makes it easier to distinguish between right and wrong .

"Apart from our actions the events that have to happen keep happening. That is why the ways of Karma are very strange. And that is why I tell you, keep all your friends and enemies on one side and relax; respose in yourself, and keep your attention on the Divine.

This is what Lord Krishna told Arjuna, ‘Samah satrau ca mitre ca tatha manapamanayohsitoshna-sukha-duhkheshu samah sanga-vivarjitah’ Do not lose the equanimity of your mind. You do not know when and where, what will happen. When a friend will become an enemy and when an enemy will become friend."-Sri Sri 

Back to reading

Finally enrolled as a member in Just books . Its a place where you can borrow books to read . This time took a book called 'The Prohet " by Kahlil Gibran . There is a lot of depth and meaning in his words which makes you think about it.


Some of his quotes mentioned below on different topics

On Marriage 

“Let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together, yet not too near together.For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.” 

On Joy and Sorrow 

“Some of you say, “Joy is greater than sorrow,” and others say, “Nay, sorrow is the greater.”
But I say unto you, they are inseparable.
Together they come, and when one sits alone with you at your board, remember that the other is asleep upon your bed.” 



On generosity 

You give but little when you give of your possessions.
It is when you give of yourself that you truly give.” 

Welcome 2016

Happy new year .This is not just a wish , lets assume its gonna be great .Sri Sri keeps emphasizing its very important to be happy and spread happiness .Lets keep that  that as our  focus for this year . Problems will come , but lets not lose our smile . Remain stable and bring out solutions .

Lets be grateful for a wonderful year which is gone ,learn from that past , not repeat the same mistakes and move on .

Lets not have any  regrets about the past  for the things not done or for the things done .

Lets  make resolutions for the things to do and not make resolutions for the things not to be done .

Some of my resolutions after a lot of thought have been listed below .Hope I follow them to a great extend .

- Read more books in the physical form not the digital format .

- Eat more healthier stuff.

-Be mindful where I spend my time and money.

- Take decisions thoughtfully  rather than in haste.

-Spend more time with nature rather than technology .

-Do more sadhana ,seva and satsang  . 

-Be truthful to myself .