Pistanthrophobia

While a guy was brushing his teeth , he encountered a fall where he got a fracture and  had to get treated . This doesn't mean he will never brush again . Similarly we see a  lot of accidents on the road , but we still use vehicles .Similarly we are afraid of getting into relationships or marriage . Fear is mainly caused due to previous bad experience or seeing experiences of others . Just because one marriage is not working , we can't generalize stating all marriages or relationships  won't work . 

One  thing which is important in relationships is compatibility . If two people are not compatible , then it won't make sense . Compatibility is quite a important factor. While discussing the same topic , another friend told love and understanding is important . Yeah, to a certain extend even that's important. I just jot down some points required in a Relationship . Age ,Caste , Religion all these are just factors and not that important.

1. Compatibility at   all levels 

2. Respect for each other and each others values as well . 

3. Love 

4. Understanding

5.Common Interests

6.Match of Wavelength  

Preethi shenoy s article regarding similar topic  given below 

http://epaper.mydigitalfc.com/articledetailpage.aspx?id=606034

Celebrate Life

Attended a  health session at Office . Insights from that session.

1. Most of the health  problems are related to thyroid . Get your thyroid tested . 

2. Measure the temperature of your body . It should be between the range of 97.8 and 98.2 .If it is not in the range , then there is some dysfunction which needs to be checked .Unable to lose weight or gain etc are all due to thyroid. 


3. Have a light dinner and laugh more .

4.Have a positive and right attitude in life which will push away diseases. 

5. Stop Piercing . It blocks the energy centers.

In art of living , we have learnt Sadhana , Seva and Satsang is required . And Sadhana if you do it in a group , its more effective . Yesterday ,I was part of Group Sadhana . In the knowledge sharing session , we learnt about blessings . Sometimes we take  things for granted and whine and whine and whine . Lets not be whiners , lets have an attitude to remain positive . Come what may , I wouldn't lose my happiness. Practice for 1 week and lets see how it goes !

“The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate.”
― Oprah Winfrey

Mind your business

Currently my whatsapp status is " Don't intervene in anybody's life unless you are asked to " .Seriously sometimes we get involved too much into other people 's life . Their choices -it may be career or partner or whatever. We should not give our opinions freely .If they really come for help , we can guide them through else we should seriously mind our business. People should learn form their own mistakes.


Its high time we understand this thoroughly else we will be in deep hurt or pain . Today s satsang we learnt , Happiness is an attitude . We should not give our smiles for anything . Come what may , we should  maintain our stability and happiness  . But we act the reverse  . Small things disturb us . Someone criticizes us , we become upset . Someone doesn't reply or talk to us , we get into depression  . These small things or big things should not take away our peace of mind .


Don't get emotionally , physically attached to anybody  or anything in life . Detachment is the way of life . Nothing is permanent .

"My life, My choices, My problems, My mistakes, My lessons. Not your business, mind your own problems before you talk about mine."

Emptiness

"Pal Bhar kae Liya koyee hamae pyaar kar le jhootha hi sahi "  , Its a old hindi song ,meaning Let someone love me momentarily even if its false . No wonder so many people are in  unhealthy relationships for the same reason . We are all empty inside and want someone to fill the void . Even if  we know , its not gonna stay for long , we end up trusting and loving the wrong person . Instead of expecting someone to love truly or falsely , lets try to fill our emptiness  and feel complete . We don't need anyone to fill  the space . We are already complete  . 

I have  found some ways to fill my emptiness which I have listed below . You can find your own , whatever it is , it shouldn't harm you or others  . Some people smoke or drink to fill emptiness , that doesn't make any sense , that will  create even  more emptiness .

1. By spending time with yourself - It could be yoga or Meditation or reading a book or dancing or writing or gardening  . Do whatever which makes you feel good .

2. By exercising regularly . 

3. By spending time with people who bring out the best in you and with whom you can be yourself and don't have to put on an act. 

4. Travelling and exploring new places , meeting new people .

5. Keeping yourself busy with worthy stuffs  which enhances your personality.

Learnings & Resolutions

26 years on this planet  ,What lessons  did  I learn from life  ? Just Summarized it here  

1. People are insensitive , but still we need to be cool and not get upset otherwise we ll lose our peace of mind . 

2. Money speaks a lot . Those who have more money are respected . So work smart to earn well . 

3. Most of the people are not ready for commitment . So just go with the flow ,  enjoy the phase and accept the same.




Some of the resolutions taken on my Birthday . Any occasion is time for resolution. Why just the New Year :) 

1.  Resolve to crib or complain less especially about Bangalore traffic . After visiting Pondicherry , realized Bangalore weather is so beautiful .

2. Resolve to enjoy the nature more  -Sunrise , Sunset are beautiful especially near beach side . Serenity at its best especially  when you are with your dear ones. 

3. Resolve to work harder to achieve my dreams .

4. Resolve to spend less time on unwanted stuffs .

5. Resolve to have less junk food and be more physically active .

6.Resolve to be more useful to society . 

Be fit ,Be Healthy

The other day I received a compliment from a friend who said I looked fit . Probably one of the best compliment which I have received . Though I know I'm not totally fit and I need to me more fit . Long way to go !!! 

But on a serious note , that's the best compliment anyone can get . Remaining fit is really essential . Your immunity would increase and lot more benefits . 

How do you know you are fit ? 

If you don't have extra fat around your body . If you can pinch the fat  , it means  you are not so fit  . Need to work on it . 

Some of the things which I have heard and which works for most people are listed here. 

1. Reduce  Sugar . It could be any form -aerated drinks ,tea ,coffee , chocolates etc. 

2. Exercise regularly .

3. Eat small meals , have a light dinner .

4.Sit less , Sitting too much is equivalent to smoking .

5.Drink loads of water 

6. Have Luke warm lime water with honey in morning

7.Have green tea . 

Physical fitness is not only one of the most important keys to a healthy body, it is the basis of dynamic and creative intellectual activity.

-John F. Kennedy

Letter from a Youth

I found this in Facebook and found worth putting it here :)

The most stupid and unrealistic questions and suggestions put to people like me in 25-30 range:

When are you getting married?

Do you have a girlfriend/boyfriend?

Have you already found someone?

Follow this custom and that to get the wedding process fastened

Its getting late, you should start searching someone

That girl/boy seems a match, why don't you give a try?

Marriage seems to be the only one solution to all the problems you are facing!!

And the most scary : He/ She is getting married now and i bet next one is you!!

Loved ones, we understand your concerns, but please understand these questions makes no sense and nobody has answers, nobody has the dates planned and no one knows where the life partner is born...There are hundred things to be worried about in life other than getting married, so be patient, less torturous and wait for the best time and perfect match

Random Gyaan

Had a  amazing session of art of living  yesterday  . Those of who have done the basic course must  come for it  and those who haven't done the course should do and come for Satsang. Feeling after it is too good .

Do we express too much love or don't express at all ?  Whats the right thing , In art of living , we have learnt balance needs to be maintained . Expressing too much love  leads to suffocation for the other person and not expressing is also not good . Indians have a tendency not to express and foreigners have a tendency to express too much .

Some of us think our life is boring , but think of a watchman s life . Whole day he has to be standing / sitting and keep on watching . And when we get bored  , what do we do ?? Either switch on the Television or log into internet or go out shopping or movies or whatsapp /facebook . I was thinking some better ways to kill boredom or things to do when there is no Internet .


1.Read a book . Nothing can be more refreshing than a good  book .

2. Talk to your family if they are around or call them .

3 . Write  something worth reading  or do something worth reading .

4. Dance to any song of your choice .

5 . Join a voluntary Organization .

6. Go out and play . 

How to become Rich

Attended  session at office ' How to become Rich ' by Author Rajashekaran , who is the author of book How to get rich and retire early . Take away points  from session listed below  and he recommended to read his  book .

1. Make a good financial plan where do you see yourself 20 years from now . 

2. Know your cash flow and expenses . 

3. Invest in right places - Equity , Mutual Funds , Real Estate . 

4. Do not invest in wrong places - Insurance , FD . Have a term insurance ,others all not worth it .Gold currently not good to invest. 

5. Always know your ROI (Return on Investmnet ) on whatever you are investing . 

6. Have a passive income , income apart from your salary and Return on investment should be more than 15% per year .

7.Imagine a richer yourself  and what you would do once you are rich .

If you are born poor its not your fault. But if you die poor its your fault.- Bill Gates

Appreciate

Yesterday ,I was given a lot of work by a Manager . But as I was about to leave office , he told me good job . That made all the difference . When was the last time we appreciated someone ?? We tend to find out mistakes  and more mistakes .  Well cooked food or a job well done , don't forget to give your appreciation

 We are human beings and we like to be appreciated . So lets genuinely appreciate people for their work . False appreciations don't make sense . If you are appreciating , it should be for something genuine .

 "Make it a habit to tell people thank you. To express your appreciation, sincerely and without the expectation of anything in return. Truly appreciate those around you, and you'll soon find many others around you. Truly appreciate life, and you'll find that you have more of it."

-Ralph Marston