Cradle to grave

"Human beings are works in progress that mistakenly think they’re finished. The person you are right now is as transient, as fleeting and as temporary as all the people you’re ever been. The one constant in our lives is change." - Daniel Gilbert ‪#‎Stumblingonhappiness‬

Some things I mite be repeating   in my blog , that's because it becomes more clear  . Like the link posted below , probably have posted it before . But worth reading again.

http://www.deccanherald.com/content/423599/from-cradle-grave.html

Another random letter  for my future husband  .Exactly what I would like to say.

http://www.youthconnectmag.com/2014/08/29/letter-to-future-husband/

Interdependence is a fundamental law of nature. Even tiny insects survive by cooperating with each other. Our own survival is so dependent on the help of others that a need for love lies at the very core of our existence. This is why we need to cultivate a genuine sense of responsibility and a sincere concern for the welfare of others.-Dalai Lama

Who am I

I have always been fascinated by psychology and one of my favorite psychiatrist Doctor Shyam  has given a beautiful Ted talk . Worth watching it and quite shocking .

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=itvjs4UpGkY&feature=youtu.be

After a while you learn the subtle difference
Between holding a hand and chaining a soul,

And you learn that love doesn't mean leaning
And company doesn't mean security.

And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts
And presents aren't promises,

And you begin to accept your defeats
With your head up and your eyes open

With the grace of a woman, not the grief of a child,

And you learn to build all your roads on today
Because tomorrow's ground is too uncertain for plans
And futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight.

After a while you learn...
That even sunshine burns if you get too much.

So you plant your garden and decorate your own soul,
Instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.

And you learn that you really can endure...

That you really are strong

And you really do have worth...

And you learn and learn...

With every good-bye you learn."

--------Jorge Luis Borges

Translation by Veronica A. Shoffstall

don't marry for wrong reasons

don't marry because you are of age.
don't marry because you are getting old,
don't marry because you are lonely, don't marry
because you need someone to support you
financially, don't marry because you don't want to
lose the person, don't marry because of family
pressures, don't marry because you like the idea of marriage and admire every wedding gown you see.
don't marry because all your friends are getting
married.
But get married because you are in love, get married cos he or she is your best friend and when that love is no more , he or she can still make u smile -John Dumelo 

Start Writing

Someone asked me a question today... What's the most important ability to have in one's life.
I replied: The ability to meditate and the discipline to do it every day!
Jai Gurudeva!- Bawa 

Interesting article  posted below which says the importance of writing . Something which we take for granted . Start writing today . Lot of things become clearer when you write. 

http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2015/01/19/writing-your-way-to-happiness/?smid=fb-share&_r=0


Sometimes we hold onto unwanted relationships which has no meaning . We want to let go . But due to some reason we hold on to it.  We know the relationship is toxic for us . It will give us pain in the long run . Best way to know when to let go or to hold on is , if it gives long term joy and short term pain , then hold on . But if it gives long term pain and short term joy , then let go. 

"When you get to that confrontation of truth with what matters to you, it creates the greatest opportunity for change ”-Dr. Groppel 

Open letter

"One day everything is going to end, but when you are here and alive, then do something! It is true that we will all die, but that does not mean that you need not go to a hospital when you are not fine. When you want to rest you have to be dispassionate and when you want to work you have to be passionate. Life is a balance between passion and dispassion."-Bava , Senior AOL Teacher 

Amazing article by Preeti shenoy regarding recent incident where a school girl committed suicide . All the parents and teenagers have to read it. She has written it all so well .   

http://blog.preetishenoy.com/2015/01/an-open-letter-to-all-teens.html#comment-form

Have always admired dancers and Ted talks . This video below  is truly amazing and inspiring. Diagnosed with breast cancer in 2008, classical dancer Ananda Shankar Jayant shares her story of facing the disease and the strength that helped her dance through it. 

https://www.ted.com/talks/ananda_shankar_jayant_fights_cancer_with_a_dance

"Tell all your friends to come and meditate. The more people around you who meditate, the better it is for everyone, and for the world. People have to come to the knowledge, so knowledge is the best way of serving the society ". - Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

Prayers

Usually our prayers are asking for something , Instead lets ask strength to face the situations . We are told to think Positive. Positive thinking is the right way , but what is positive thinking  ?? Expecting everything to happen whatever we wish . Not Really . Positive thinking  is accepting the situation however it is and knowing that whatever is happening  is accurate for me . Even  if  I have fallen down now , it is because of some past karmic account and accepting the fact .

This doesn't mean being very passive . We need to put in our 100% and work towards our goals without worrying about anything.   Every scripture says don't have desires . Being content is very important . We can aim for bigger things but without  feverishness. Not thinking that you will be happy only if you get a better job or buy a bigger flat or when you get person of your choice. Be happy and then work on it .

Another beautiful thing which I heard is lets not be copy cats , Most of us are . Lets try to be original . We smile when someone smiles at us , we frown if someone frowns at us , we hurt others because they hurt us , we go to  a function or wedding because they came for ours ,we give gifts because they gave us.  Lets be different from today . Since most of them are copy cats , lets be good and nice , so that people copy that from us rather than we copying others . Don't hold hatred or revenge against anyone.

Law of Nature

When you wish good for others, good things come back to you.This is the LAW of NATURE. -Sri Sri

I had a severe tooth pain other day . I couldn't think of anything else other than the pain . Similarly in life , when we are in deep pain or unhappy , we can't think of anything else . You can't think of bringing joy to someone else . Not even to your spouse , parents , children or friends . So its very important to remain at peace and sort out your pain first . You should first be happy to spread happiness to others. 

We can give food to others without  having  ourselves but we cannot  give happiness to anyone without being happy . Make very sure not to lose your stability and peace of mind at any cost . In today s world , it isn't so easy . Life is very challenging . Each person reacts in a different way . You solve one problem and life throws some other challenge.  That's where yoga , pranayams do help . I'm not saying , once you learn Sudarshan Kriya , all your problems will be solved . But it definitely gives you strength and helps you in journey  of life . Our life is work in progress and we are working on it ,trying to make it beautiful and less complicated . 

 Lets empower ourselves not to create hurt for every small thing .Other day , friend of mine was telling she felt very insulted since her friends didn't call her for a treat .  I told her its fine , you remain stable . Don't get disturbed . No one can insult or disrespect you unless you allow yourself to do it. Respect yourself . That's more important . Don't expect others to respect you .  People respect or not respect , it has nothing to do with you . Its their culture . Today they mite respect and tomorrow they may not . Don't judge yourself on others feelings which keeps changing often.  You are not good or bad based on others opinions . Be true to yourself . 

Beauty lies in the eyes of beholder

Got to experience the beautiful Rudra Puja on Sunday by Swami Madhusudhanji . Even I didn't know much about Rudra Puja . Below link gives more information about it .

http://www.artofliving.org/in-en/what-rudra-puja

During Rudra Puja , all of us took Sankalpa(Intention ) that we wouldn't use our tongue to say something bad , we wouldn't use our hands to do something bad and wouldn't think anything bad . What a beautiful Sankalpa or Intention . If each one of us follows it , the world would be a much better  place . 

Some ads can  bring a tear on your eyes and this was one of it . We give so many definitions for beauty .We don't need hair to look beautiful . In fact we don't need anything outside to look beautiful , its more to do  with inside. Link to the ad given below

https://www.facebook.com/video.php?v=1524548497833020&set=vb.1419759968311874&type=2&theater

"Obstacles don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it."–Michael Jordan

Keep Smiling and do service

When someone very close to you leaves you , it isn't a good feeling . May be they have gone to a different place or they are no more . Whatever it is , its a situation which needs to be handled well .

Best way I have found is accepting the situation and thinking everyone is in  a train  journey . Probably the other person is happier to get down in a different destination rather than continue with us . We can't ask anyone to stay back . Their karmic account with us is over . Accept and move on

Someone asked Sri Sri , how to move on in life  ? Guruji told Time will take care. Wake up and see. Keep yourself Busy .Your life is not limited to 5-10 people.Make others happy.

"If you have gone through a break-up which was intensely painful, that is because the pleasure in the relationship had been equally intense. It is craving that made it so painful, leaving you in the present moment with only a bag of emotions. 
What does a wise one do? He takes forward the lessons and leaves behind the emotions in the past.Just learn your lessons instead of carrying anger, frustration and hatred towards others. "- Sri Sri

Happiness is .....

Happiness is when someone is happy because of you . You are the reason for someone s smile . 
You can give your own definition . This seems so perfect definition . Lets make our anger expensive and smiles cheaper . More we get angry , more we are blocking our natural elements like love , care etc .  So lets not block our natural elements and not get angry for small  things which in turn affects our health , mind .

There is always a better way to handle things rather than using anger . Anger is not the right tool . Would you be happy if someone shouts at you and gets the work done . Similarly  you can't get angry at anyone to get the work done. .

There is no such thing as healthy competition . Each one is unique and carrying different karmic account from various births , So there is never the concept of competition . If someone is enjoying some benefits , its because of their good karmic account and hard work. So never compare any 2 individuals . Be it children or sub ordinates or any 2 individuals for that matter . Jealousy cannot be created at any level . We should focus on our journey rather than comparing ourselves with others. 

Another beautiful technique which I read in Times of India is regarding worry box . Lets have one . It could be a secret diary or a box where you can dump your worries and think about it only in specific times rather than every time . I usually tend to write in papers and tear it off . And Most of the times I do feel better after that. May be in the beginning or end of the day , we can put our our worries in worry box . Link for that article posted below.

http://m.speakingtree.in/spiritual-articles/lifestyle/the-worry-box-a-place-for-your-worries

New Year Resolutions

"This Creation moves on your intentions. What you are today is what you have wanted to be. What you are going to be tomorrow is what you are wishing today... So be careful what you wish for! "-Bawa 

Everyone was asking me what are my new year resolutions . Let me put it down here .

1.To be more useful to the world around me . It could be in any way possible .

2. To be more responsible and aware of time spent , words spoken and my personal belongings. I keep losing my  stuffs.

3. Not to have revenge or hatred on anyone . Each one has some karmic account with us and thereby its getting settled  . It need not be in this birth , may be in last birth I may have done something to them , that's the reason they did the same  to me. By having hatred , I ll be again creating a vicious cycle.

4. To be more grateful and contented in life. There are people who are suffering much more than us . Instead of cribbing on our problems , we need to go there and help them . 

5. To do things out of commitment rather than out of feelings . Feelings change frequently, sometimes you like to do and other times  you may not like to do  but having a commitment is a different thing. Commitment means I ll do the same even if I like or not if its good for me .