Letting Go

Easier said than done  to let go . But still we can work on it. Interesting article posted below on the same . Do read it . Some nice lines has been posted down as well .

https://www.thriveglobal.com/stories/11710-when-you-love-someone-who-is-self-destructive-and-continually-refuses-help 

For anyone who has ever loved someone who is addicted to something destructive (another person, drugs, food, alcohol, chaos) and continually refuses help, at some point you either have to -- as the zen saying goes -- let go or be dragged.

Letting go can feel like complete treachery, but allowing someone to encounter the natural consequences of their destructive choices can be one of the most loving gestures of all. 

If you're repeatedly preventing the natural, negative consequences from arising, you're not only not helping, but you're actually making it easier for that person to engage in their destructive behaviors (i.e. enabling).

The process of letting go looks like you stepping away from martyrdom and stepping towards consistent choices to take good care of yourself and attend wholeheartedly to your own life. In doing this, you position yourself so that if/when the person you care for is ready to accept help and change, you will be there-- fully present, fully able, fully ready to help.

Poem has been posted in same site which I'm pasting it below .

TO LET GO"

{-author unknown}

To let go doesn't mean to stop caring,

it means I can't do it for someone else.

To let go is not to cut myself off,

It's the realization that I can't control another.

To let go is to admit powerlessness,

which means the outcome is not in my hands.

To let go is not to care for,

but to care about.

To let go is not to fix,

but to be supportive.

To let go is not to judge,

but to allow another to be a human being.

To let go is not to be in the middle, arranging all the outcomes,

but to allow others to affect their own future.

To let go is not to deny,

but to accept.

To let go is not to nag, scold, or argue,

but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.

To let go is not to regret the past,

but to grow and live for the future.

To let go is to fear less and love more.