Silence

It's amazing how you can speak right to my heart 
Without saying a word you can light up the dark 
Try as I may I can never explain 
What I hear when you don't say a thing 


The smile on your face let's me know that you need me 
There's a truth in your eyes saying you'll never leave me 
The touch of your hand says you'll catch me wherever I fall 
You say it best, when you say nothing at all 

Ronan Keating s song - you say it best when you say nothing at all . So true . Sometimes silence speaks much more than words. We have forgotten to be silent . Either we keep messaging , chatting  or talking on phone . Silence is completely ignored .  Everyday at least half an hour be in silence and connect within yourself . Switch off your phones ,laptops and be away from all distractions .

We talk about energy conservation and keep wasting our own precious resource by talking . Silence is truly golden . The amount of energy  conserved by keeping quite is tremendous .This gives you a lot of will power to remain strong . And sometimes it becomes very difficult to silence your mind and the best thing to do that time is  to remain quite which will in turn silence your mind .

Even sometimes in an argument , being quite will reduce the velocity of it  . We try to make our point to the other person and they never understand . Instead understand nobody can be changed , each one has to work on himself to bring a change.


Kam bolo , Meetae bolo , Dheerae bolo (Meaning talk less , talk sweet and talk slowly) can be practiced regularly . 









“We sit silently and watch the world around us. This has taken a lifetime to learn. It seems only the old are able to sit next to one another and not say anything and still feel content. The young, brash and impatient, must always break the silence. It is a waste, for silence is pure. Silence is holy. It draws people together because only those who are comfortable with each other can sit without speaking. This is the great paradox.” 
― Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook

Expectations

I expect you to behave this way and do this for me.How practical it is  ?? That 's what expectations do to us. Lets try one day without any expectations and then see how we feel . We feel a lot liberated , trust me !

We expect our family and friends to listen to us. Instead we can try not to change them and accept them the way they are .
We may not like some of their habits but constantly telling them wouldn't be a solution .We can remain stable and put across our points but if they do not change , we should not get disturbed .

The point I'm trying to make here is somebody s behavior should not make us disturbed . We can be detached observers.

As per Bhagvad Gita ,  Detachment does not mean inaction or renunciation of action. Detachment means renunciation of expectation of reward of action. Bhagvad Gita repeatedly emphasizes performance of duty without any expectation of reward. 

Lets try to practice it and remain  stable . Enjoy the work which you do and give it your 100% percent rather than having expectations and being disappointed. Another thing which can be practiced is being non judgmental . Lets stop that inner talk why this person is behaving this way etc etc , stop criticizing and wasting our energy on it . Instead focus on building yourself  and overcoming your weaknesses . More we talk and condemn about others , we tend to become like that. 

"Expectation is the root of all heartache "

Forgive

 We have heard a million times to forgive  , but how can you forgive someone who has hurt you , who has betrayed you ??  Is it possible ???

   
Yes , We can forgive  .We are not forgiving for their sake . We are doing it for our own peace of mind so that we don't keep them in our mind . Its not necessary to  hang out with them but at least forgive and let it go.

  Sometimes we are too harsh on ourselves  . We don't forgive ourselves also . Lets start forgiving ourselves and then others too. 

When we know that the other person is disturbed and hurt , it becomes easier for us to forgive .This is the truth  . People who are with peace with themselves wouldn't hurt others. When a person is not mentally stable and does something , we say that  person is not normal and leave it . Similarly when someone has hurt us , we can see it in  a similar way and  it becomes much easier then .

Anyone can hold a grudge, but it takes a person with character to forgive. When you forgive, you release yourself from a painful burden. Forgiveness doesn't mean what happened was OK, and it doesn't mean that person should still be welcome in your life. It just means you have made peace with the pain, and are ready to let it go.

- Unknown

Save Me!!!

Its not me who is crying ,Its the Tree out there . Can we save them ???  We can do whatever possible from our side to protect environment . 

Some of the ways which we can are :

Think before you print! When printing, use both sides of paper

Turn off computers and laptops when not in use. Set your machine to sleep mode during       breaks. 
       
Don’t use screen savers on your computers, laptops and mobile phone since it consumes more     energy .

Travel less by car, opt for carpooling or use public transport 

Remember to switch off the lights when not in use

Another way to reduce global warming is becoming a vegetarian . Check out the links below and you would be shocked to know the amount of global warming caused due to non vegetarian food.

http://www.peta.org/issues/animals-used-for-food/global-warming/

http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/the-greenhouse-hamburger/

Purpose of life

I have  been inspired by the  Malayalam movie movie Ustaad Hotel . When we are happy we don't  think about purpose of life , but at least when things don't  go our way we think about it.
Have we ever thought about  whats the purpose of life ??

In this movie , famous chef gives up his high paying job when he sees a man eating his own human waste because of hunger and  then starts serving the needy . We don't  have to give up  our jobs but at least we can try to do whatever bit we can  to make the lives of others  better especially the ones who can't afford one meal a day.
There are lots of people who are dying because of malnutrition & poverty .  May be we can do our bit by giving our time or money or whatever possible way . Be a volunteer for an organization where they genuinely help the needy . Once a week at least  , we can spend our time on it. This  old  Hindi song says it best . Listen to it with the translations .
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HenG4P6vKys

“The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.”

― Eleanor Roosevelt

Youth for Seva is one of the Voulntary Organization which is doing a good job . You can register over there.
Link for the same is http://youthforseva.org/ .

Time Management

       I attended session on time management yesterday . Training's are always fun . It s a great way of learning something new . Some key points from the session were :

As per Stephen Covey , all successful people have one thing in common and they knew how to mange time well.

Make a time journal on how you spend your day.

Make goals and write it down . Short term  , long term  and give a definite deadline. If its beyond 10 years then its not a goal , its a dream.

Make a daily planner and prepare to do list . 

Do the  most difficult thing first . 

Do one task at a time. 

Remember this matrix and analyse where you spend most of your time 

"Until we can manage time , we can manage nothing else "

"Time management is life Management "-Robin Sharma     

Move on

Now listen to me baby
Before I love and leave you
They call me heart breaker
I don't wanna deceive you

If you fall for me
I'm not easy to please
I'm might tear you apart
Told you from the start, baby, from the start

I'm only gonna break break your break break your heart
I'm only gonna break break your break break your heart

Lyrics of the song by Taio Cruz. We sometimes  know that some people will break our heart but we still hang on to them for reasons unknown .

Whatever may be the reasons ,if you are ready to take the hurt then you need to be really strong to push yourselves up and move on.  But don't make a big deal out of things like someone hurt me etc etc. No one can actually break your heart . You should make yourself so strong that come what may ,I will handle it . 

       I have seen people who pour acid on girls who have rejected them or have hate feelings towards them . This is so foolish . Why do you have to do  such stuffs? If someone doesn't like you why do you like them .

You can always express your feelings but it doesn't mean they have to also reciprocate the same. If someone has left you , its alright ,its perfectly their  choice. You dust yourself and move on and trust me no one can break your heart unless  you create the hurt . 

"Whatever happens ,life has to go on "- Inspired from the  Tamil movie Vaaranam Ayiram . If you haven't watched it , go and watch it now :) 

Magic Rules

  I found this picture too good and loved the wordings. Lets be little more kinder to people around us because we never know whats happening in their lives . May be they had a fight or something else , whatever it is , lets not be rude to people around us.

I found these points from Robin Sharma s article good  and have posted  here. You can find many more ways and post it as comments. 

Lets try to practice these 7 Magic Rules

Rule #1: Think about others before you think about yourself. 

Rule #2: Say "please". 

Rule #3: Say "thank you".  

Rule #4: Smile. 

Rule #5: Say "sorry" when you need to say "sorry". 

Rule #6: Turn off your phone when you eat with your family or friends.

Rule #7. Be on time. No, be early. 

This nestle ad  posted below says a lot about goodness. If kids can become good over food , even we can  :)

Education System

Two students studying in tenth standard committed suicide as they were punished for playing holi in school premises. Where are we going with this Education System which doesn't value celebration . I  understand discipline is important but not at the cost of lives .We have made our children robots who have no value system at all. Future these people are gonna be leaders who would have no courage to face the world.

 Does our Education System teaches us to face challenges , to be happy , to share ?? At least is it teaching us to think differently and work effectively in the Corporate World .I don't think so. It is only teaching us to compete with one another and pull  others down . Parents have a huge responsibility here if the education system is failing .Parents should teach their children to inculcate basic human values .

I found this letter which Abraham Lincoln  wrote to his son's teacher at school . May be we can implement it and  teach our younger generation same values so that they can follow .

Cancer

Asha ,my aunts dearest friend and later our family friend . She was the most sweetest , bubbliest  , enthusiastic person I have known . She was in her early thirties with a good job . Few years back, cancer took her life.
                 We assume it can't happen to us . I tell you , It can happen to anyone . You , me or your dear and near ones . I have lost a dear one too and seen the person suffering .Its one of deadliest disease known to mankind .Fortunately there are treatments today  if its detected in early stages , but it does cost a lot .

               "Prevention is always better than cure" . Somethings are not in our hand . At least lets try our best to prevent  it . Lets take a pledge to eat healthy food , not to take tension , no smoking , exercising regularly , regular check ups  and going to doctor if you find any signs .

                   I know a person who had early stages of cancer and heart attack in his twenties because of his smoking habits and drug abuse. He got it cured without any treatment by practicing techniques in art of living So if you require help ,its always there . Lets not give pain to our dear and near ones.
There are many people who survived cancer . Hats off to them !

Suicide

Once upon a time , Even I have thought about it . Thinking about it now , I feel it was such a foolish thought .
May be most of us have thought about it , but I tell you its the most foolish thing which you will ever be doing.

Right now you have a body to express your pain and sorrow but once you commit Suicide that's not possible and you would be reborn with deformities, I repeat deformities  . Do you want to  be reborn with deformities ? I don't think so, so don't ever have that thought in your mind. Usually this thought comes when you think only about yourself .
Start thinking about  what you can do to the society , how you can make this better  place to live , how you can spread happiness to your dear and near ones , then Suicide would never occur in your mind . It is state of utter hopelessness , there is always a way out . If one door closes , there are many doors open .

Its very shocking to see intelligent and smart people doing it . They are asset to society .This link below shows the number of suicides in IIT . Very shocking indeed .

http://iitsuicides.blogspot.in

Trust me , there is always a way out and Suicide is not the solution . If you ever feel like committing suicide ,
don't hesitate to ask for help  or go through the below website.

/http://www.harnessinghappiness.org/suicidalfeeling.aspx

"Even the darkest night will end and Sun will rise " . Don't you dare give up . 

Be happy

 People and situations change . This is the truth .We need to accept people and situations as they are .
This would bring tremendous peace within ourselves. Another thing which helps to bring peace is to consider life as a train journey . Like each person gets in from different station and gets down in different destination , similarly in the journey of life each person comes into your life and leaves . This can be considered even  when body leaves the soul  or in other words when someone passes away. We cannot expect some people to stay longer since each person has their  own journey .

The best thing to do is learn from each person ,see the good in everyone and try not to hurt anyone intentionally. "Be happy and spread happiness" . Remain stable at all situations . Do not get overwhelmed by criticism or compliments .  Examine the criticism and if there is a need to change , then change else let go .
Sometimes picture speaks more than words. This picture speaks a lot

 Lets be someone like that picture girl rather than cribbing and complaining . People don't want to hear your problems . Unless you really can't handle it and you need help , then you  can share  it , that too with dear ones not with all.
Another quote which really inspired me  is this below picture.

Falling down is part of life , getting back is living . Yes we fall , we fall very badly but we need to get up and get going . Keep the right people in your life . Delete the unwanted ones. Take good care of yourself . Eat healthy and reduce junk food  . Exercise daily , do some yoga and dance like no one is seeing . Love yourself first ." If you don't like yourself , no one can like  you."

                            

Dreams

Dreams help us erase our painful memories . So lets start dreaming . However they are not in our control . Another thing which helps to  remove our bad memories is  meditation .At least that is in our control.
Lets meditate daily to get rid of the bad memories and start a new beginning.

    There are different ways to learn meditation . I have found my way and that's art of living .It will make  the journey of  life  much more enriching .

Like dreams , even wishes do come true . Write down your secret wish and there are much  more chances that  it will become true .Write it down today  and let me know if it becomes  true .

Follow your dreams.This picture says it all .

Never let go of your dreams :)

If you can dream it , you can do it - Walt Disney